The discussion about selfishness has me thinking about boundaries. I hear so much about creating healthy boundaries and I think I’m getting a handle on what that means, but trying to keep boundaries healthy seems to be harder in relationships that matter the most.
Another thing I’ve learned about how to deal with someone who asks me to do something I don’t really want to do, is I ask myself, “will it hurt me to do this thing?” That question can help me sort through my own definition of selfishness. I also remind myself, that I get to chose how to give to others, when and even if I want to give to others. If I am giving out of obligation, then I need to dig deeper and ask myself if this then, is truly giving? For me, I’ve just come to understand that setting a boundary is better than giving out of obligation. It’s more honest, anyway.