The Dance of Duality

Issue No. 5

Question: What is "duality" and how do we live our lives in this concept of "duality", will life ever be easy?

Answer: My understanding of duality is that we are two things in one. We are in human form and we are in Spirit from. There seems to be a varying opinion that we are human inside of Spirit or Spirit inside of a human form. Either way, we are two forms living as one being.

Now, for the second part of the question, how to find peace living in two forms. I tend to think of my human side as my mind or intellect and my Spirit side as my heart, intrusion and emotions. Sometimes we can find ourselves frustrated because life just doesn't seem to make sense. I have a few pet phrases for moments like these:

"My brain hurts."

"My heart is starving."

"I feel empty."

"I feel too high."

"I'm lost."

"I'm stuck."

Notice any kind of pattern in these sentences? How about balance? Each of these statements is an indicator of being too much in one side of our duality and not enough in the other.

I've learned that when my brain hurts, I need to be sure it's a brain issue I'm working on, like math or science. If my brain hurts when I'm working on a deep inner-world issue, then I'm using the part of me that isn't connected to the part of me that has the answers. It's like looking in a shoe store and getting frustrated because we can't find the ice cream. <chuckle>

The answers for our heart cannot be "figured" out with our brain. Those answers are within us already, we need to allow them to bubble up to our awareness as we are ready to embrace them. Impatience to grow faster pushes these answers down deeper.

I like to think of this balancing act between our human side and our Spirit side as a dance. When our human side gets rowdy it pushes too hard and takes the lead. We are wanting to give Spirit the lead to this Dance of Duality. Our spirit side is not pushy, or loud, yet is quite capable of leading this dance. Our human side needs to choose to relinquish it's need for control to allow space for our Spirit side to lead it into deeper levels of Spirit Dancing.

Finally, the last part of the question, "Will life ever be easy?" I believe that as we learn to surrender to Spirit in this dance in Earth School, we gain a deeper ability to relax and follow Spirit. Since our Spirit side has a higher view point of our life, that part usually has a broader perspective of our life. Our Spirit side is naturally better equipped to lead this dance. As our human side dares to trust our Spirit side to lead, we naturally glide along more gracefully.

So, yes, I think life does get easier, and yet, we are here in physical form to learn how to be Spirit and human as one being. How much of our lives are geared around challenge? We create games to prove our abilities in various sports. We feel great when we accomplish things. I suspect that life will always bring us new challenges, and our ability to handle and re-frame tragedy into triumph increases with experience. The more we are able to embrace challenges rather than dread, hide or run from them, the more joy-full our lives become. Shall we dance? <gentle smile>