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From my years as a mental health therapist, there were times when I would be working with an especially depressed or suicidal client and I would wonder how I could possibly touch this person. They seemed to be so far away, so lost, so full of pain and so alone. That's when I would remember that it isn't me, or my "just right" words, or my years of "book learning" that is going to make a difference with this person, it is simply my ability to channel Love, which wasn't taught in college, by the way. <smile> 
I had one particular client who came to me in such a state that she could not take in anything I had to say. Our sessions were often silent. She could not bring herself to trust me enough to even speak more than a few sentences. At first, I tried to do my therapist thing and draw her out. She became angry and gave me the message to be quiet. Over the months I learned to sit for our 50 minutes and hold visions of Love for her. There was nothing in my bag of tricks that helped except that.
Over the years, she grew to trust me, even though she could not say in words what she needed, in fact, she didn't even know within herself what she needed. In time I learned that her parents were so critical of her that she became paralyzed in her life. She was stuck solidly between what her parents were yelling in her mind about and her own heart's desire. I, as her therapist, became those parents, in her mind, during our sessions. Therefore, anything I said sounded critical to her. Those were rough sessions on both of us.
We worked together for about 5 years. During her last year, she blossomed into her own beautiful flower. In fact, we had sessions where she talked so much I couldn't get a word in edgewise. She was finally able to verbalize how much she appreciated my ability to hold a Loving space for her. Though silent in this physical world, that space was brimming with safety and an energy that was so foreign to her she had no words to express her need to soak it into her soul. I watched her grow up in every way. The day came when she said good bye with confidence and a strength I have rarely seen.
I tell you this story because it demonstrates so strongly how Love is what works when all else fails. Sometimes we can feel as though we are doing nothing when we are simply emanating or channeling unconditional Love to someone. I suspect that's why Love has so often been the last choice for many of us. Even so, in my opinion, channeling Love to others is the ultimate gift, the ultimate solution to the world's pain.
This silence filled with Love, is a language all its own. You don't need to know the right words, the latest technique or the most powerful affirmations to help another person in your life. All we need to do is BE. One way we can BE Love is to "pretend" we ARE Love. I use the word "pretend" as way to help our intellect crawl through a loophole to something that doesn't make much sense. So we can "pretend" to BE and Angel, "pretend" to BE God, "pretend" to BE enlightened, and suddenly we understand how to channel Love. Love needs no words, it simply is. When our intellect gets out of the way, Love rises to the surface.
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